Actress Mia Farrow Criticizes Haiti Adoption

Now if only she would START bringing into light THE corrupt practice of The Adoption Industry in the United States, which IS Closed Adoption and the denial of Original Birth Certificates to we Adoptees along with the deception and back stabbing which IS Open Adoption......if any Adoptive Mother knows how bringing a child to America from another country and forcing parts of bad American culture on them can hurt them psychologically it would be Mia Farrow due to the despicable behaviour of her beyond a loser ex-husband Woody Allen who horrifically took advantage of her Adopted daughter Soon-Yi. Babies are coerced and manipulated away from their Real Mothers everyday in this country due to the promise of a better life, which considering all the emotional harm the Adoption System causes is nothing but a fairy tale for countless Adoptees. Especially for those Adopted by abusive and toxic people....which does include some celebrities........like Adoptive Mother Of The Year (COUGH, COUGH, RUNNING FOR MY BASTARD BARF BUCKET NOW) Joan Crawford, (may she be rotting in hell)........
Associated Press
GENEVA –
"UNICEF goodwill ambassador Mia Farrow has criticized as "deplorable" attempts to take children out of Haiti illegally after last month's devastating earthquake.
The U.S. actress says groups or individuals who want to help Haiti's children should rather support orphanages or their families inside the country.
Farrow, who herself has adopted 11 children, says offering parents a better life for their children elsewhere is "completely unacceptable and immoral."
Adoption practices in Haiti are in the spotlight since a group of American missionaries was caught trying to smuggle Haitian children out of the country in the wake of the Jan. 12 quake.
Farrow was taking part by telephone Thursday in a news briefing for the U.N. children's fund's annual appeal".

In case you have forgotten about the scandal surrounding Mia Farrow and Woody Allen let me refresh your memory............

"In 1970, Farrow married the musician André Previn. Farrow and Previn had three biological children (twins Matthew and Sascha, born in 1970, and Fletcher, born in 1974). They adopted Vietnamese infants Lark Song and Summer Song ("Daisy") in 1973 and 1976, respectively, followed by the adoption of eight-year-old Soon-Yi from Korea around 1978. André and Mia divorced in 1979, but remained on good terms. Lark died on Christmas Day of 2008.
In 1980, Farrow began seeing film director Woody Allen. Together they adopted Moses "Misha" Farrow (born 1978, adopted 1980) and Dylan "Eliza" Farrow (born c. 1985, now called Malone). In 1987 Mia gave birth to Satchel O'Sullivan Farrow, now known as Ronan Seamus Farrow. During their relationship, Farrow starred in many of Allen's films, and several of their children also made appearances.
Farrow and Allen parted after Farrow discovered a sexual relationship between Allen and her adopted daughter Soon-Yi. During the subsequent custody battle involving Farrow's and Allen's three children, Farrow filed charges that Allen had abused their daughter Dylan, then seven years old. Allen has adamantly denied the charges. A doctor concluded that Dylan "either invented the story under the stress of living in a volatile and unhealthy home or that it was planted in her mind by her mother" because Dylan presented the story inconsistently. The charges were dropped to avoid subjecting the child to a court trial, although a judge called Allen's conduct "grossly inappropriate". Farrow ultimately won custody of the children. During the public fracas, Frank Sinatra allegedly contacted Farrow with an offer to have Allen's legs broken, a courtesy Farrow wrote of in her 1997 autobiography What Falls Away.

Farrow has been estranged from Soon-Yi since Soon-Yi's 1997 marriage to Allen. Farrow called the loss a "tragedy" in The Observer and remarked that "she's not coming back." Farrow said of Soon-Yi: "She was on the streets in Korea when she was captured and brought to the state orphanage. And in a way I can see from her perspective — a very limited perspective — that she's improved her situation. For a little orphan kid from Korea ... Perhaps she's not to be blamed." In a widely circulated quote, Soon-Yi dismissed Farrow as "no Mother Teresa".
Farrow later adopted six more children, including Gabriel Wilk Farrow, adopted in 1995 and named after Elliott Wilk, the judge who oversaw Farrow's 1993 legal battle with Allen. Her adopted daughter Tam Farrow died in 2000 at the age of 21, following a long illness. In late 2008, her daughter Lark Previn died".

List of Mia Farrows Children:

With André Previn
Matthew Phineas Previn (born February 26, 1970; twin of Sascha)
Sascha Villiers Previn (born February 26, 1970; twin of Matthew)
Fletcher Farrow Previn (born March 14, 1974)

Adopted with Previn
Soon-Yi Previn, (born in South Korea, October 8, 1970; adopted c. 1978)
Lark Song Previn, (born in Vietnam, February 15, 1973, died in New York, December 25, 2008; adopted 1973)
Summer Song Previn (also known as Daisy), (born in Vietnam, October 6, 1974, adopted 1975)

With Woody Allen
Ronan Seamus Farrow (born December 19, 1987), (birth name Satchel O'Sullivan Farrow)

Adopted with Allen
Moses Amadeus Farrow (also known as Misha Farrow) (born January 27, 1978, adopted 1980)
Dylan O'Sullivan Farrow (also known as Eliza Farrow, current name is Malone, born July 11, 1985)

Later adopted solely by Farrow
Tam Farrow (1979 – March 2000)
Isaiah Justus Farrow (born 1992)
Kaeli-Shea Farrow (now known as Quincy, adopted 1994)
Frankie-Minh (born 1991, adopted 1995) (named after Frank Sinatra)
Thaddeus V. Farrow (born c. 1988, adopted 1994)
Gabriel Wilk Farrow

Characters Unite Against Adoptees.........Part IV, The Last Straw...

So I am innocently sitting on the couch watching a rerun of a "Monk" Episode I happened to like, eating my Pirate Booty Aged White Cheddar Rice Puffs this past summer when I saw it. The bowl sitting on my lap fell onto the floor soon after...it didn't matter. I was to furious to continue eating anyway...... "I'm an Adoptive Father" would echo in my ears and haunt me for the rest of the night, while my soul screamed WELL WHAT ABOUT US?!!!!!!! once again for the millionth time while I tried to fathom, why the HELL a Tv Character had more rights then I did....


Then my anger, after reading the following quote, turned into sardonic laughter........I suppose that is because I am exacerbated. Infuriated. Exhausted and Humiliated. Closed Adoption will do that to ya...

"USA Network has launched CHARACTERS UNITE, a new multimedia platform committed to combating intolerance and promoting acceptance. To make a pledge against intolerance and prejudice go to charactersunite.com"

Yeah........for everyone but bastards.......but why should we be included, when some who fight for equality for themselves benefit further by using us as commodities.......



I agree with this African-American man. The view from the back of the bus DOES suck. So does not having the legal right to be given your own Original Birth Certificate.
Because you weren't born the right way. Which is the emotional equivalent of being treated like dirt because you don't look the right way. Which is equally as ridiculous....growing up as I mentioned before in another post, I heard so many asinine lies that I never believed from my proud of her family's slave owners ancestry Adoptive Mother, I still cringe when I think upon them. She said "they" didn't take baths. "They" were lazy. "They" were dumb. And as she watched like a hawk, the African-American women who were hired to clean, cater and serve horderves at her upper middle class Caucasian Open House dinner parties, I could feel more lies in her racial profiling. Lies that felt all too familiar....
I was in sixth grade when I first read it. "Black Like Me" was making a huge impact not only on alot of white Americans, but on me too. I remember our teacher explaining the reason why this book was written. And why John Howard Griffin was such a phenomenal man. And all the sympathy I had for African-Americans. I could relate. I knew exactly what it felt like to be treated like you weren't good enough. I remember too, a sense of excitement breaking through the numbness that always encased me, which was also a form of shock at the audacity of the situation forced on me and the nerve of being told I could not know my Mother's own name, because the ostracization of the African American people was finally being seen in the right light. That it was wrong.....something I could never discuss at home. Something that no one ever discussed enough. The dots would connect in my heart and in an indirect but similar way, I felt that perhaps the pain I felt about Closed Adoption Records and the shame society wanted me to feel because I was born out of wedlock was being recognized as well. For being raised in Closed Adoption is the loneliest feeling in the world....yet forty years later, the same loneliness still constantly stings my 4th chakra........

WHY CAN'T USA CREATE AN ADOPTED CHARACTER? WHY CAN'T AN ACTOR OR ACTRESS REPRESENT US? WHY CAN'T A TV SHOW BE CREATED ABOUT THE OPPRESSION WE FACE? WHY CAN'T SOMEONE SAY "I'M A BASTARD" AND PLEDGE TO STOP INTOLERANCE TOWARDS US?.....

And when will I see "Adopted Like Me" in my Tv listings....
In my wildest dreams I imagine it. A non-Adopted person pretending they are Adopted, trying to renew their drivers' licence and being treated like a terrorist because they have only an Amended Birth Certificate to present...
or calling an Adoption Agency to request a search for their Real Mother and being told they can only meet her or have her name IF she gives her permission for them to see her.........
or sending an Adoption Agency money for unidentifying information, that they are legally entittled to, only to never get it and be refused a refund.......
or to go to Vital Statistics and have a total stranger tell them it is illegal for them to have their own OBC and see their Real Parents names while this person who has nothing to do with them at all and whose bloodline is none of their business, can look at it and know who they are anytime the urge strikes......
or to have an Adoption Agency employee literally laugh at their request to meet their Real Father, followed by a remark that was made to make them feel like they are from Mars...
or in a flashback to their childhood when they were drawing a family tree in grade school and asking the teacher if she will find out who their Real Mother is, so they can do the assignment right and being told, you aren't legally allowed to know who gave birth to you dear.....
And portraying WHAT this feels like. All the hurt. The feelings of inferiority. The shame. The anger at how UNBELIEVABLY UNINTELLIGENT the way we are treated is. And the intense frustration that sours our lives....

Then I read something else, that makes what I am saying even more important. On
another blog, a few days ago.......

"Anonymous said...
The fact that President Obama is repealing the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy in the military for homosexual people is great.
When will it be our turn, you ask?
Well, we are the INVISIBLE MINORITY. Our discrimination isn't even acknowledged AS DISCRIMINATION.
When people use "bastard" as a cuss word, they really cannot look around them and know who they are bashing. Some people using this term don't even realize what they are saying. They are slamming a "fiction character", a person without a known father. That's the problem. THE MAJORITY OF OUR SOCIETY STILL BELIEVES THAT THE FATHERLESS ARE LESSER THAN THEM!!!!
I also believe that President Obama has NO IDEA WHAT ADOPTEE RIGHTS IS.
January 30, 2010 10:28 AM
And I have said that many times myself. That calling evildoers a "bastard" is condescending to all of us. A form of prejudice. Discrimination. Categorizing. Hate speech...I wrote two blogs two years ago about this very subject.
I still don't understand the concept of the word bastard however. We DO have Fathers, we wouldn't have been conceived if we didn't. So what moron thought up that theory...probably someone as brain cell strapped as the blockhead who drafted the laws that African-Americans could not go to a white Christian Church, or drink out of the same water fountain....
The very real truth, "that our discrimination isn't even acknowledged as discrimination" is one reason WHY we must start to push harder. Why we need to call The White House comment line constantly and politely let President Obama know that if this country is to truly execute diversity, WE MUST BE INCLUDED. More E-mails need to be sent to Reps, Senators and Governors. And our stories need to be heard, in person, face to face with those who make our laws. I can not emphasize that enough. Let them see our tears. See the sadness in our eyes. Let them UNDERSTAND by hearing the heartbreak in our voices how the United States is treating us like second class citizens....and that ADOPTIVE PARENTS HAVE NO RIGHT TO HAVE MORE RIGHTS THAN US, BECAUSE WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS JUST LIKE THEM AND WE NEVER HAVE BEEN, NOR EVER WILL BE LESS THAN THEM......
When I first came into the Adoption community online, a Real Mother wrote to me that "you guys are going to have to shout it from the rooftops". Damn good advice. But until I buy a megaphone and get over my fear of heights, I am not climbing on top of my house anytime soon....of course I know she didn't mean that literally, but we have to be louder, and spend as much time letting Congress and the media know how we feel as we do blogging. Yet I won't undermine what we have done on line. For we have broken the ice. And educated many people. And with the trail of our words we have created a base from which changes can come about and our plights heard. I am glad for the African-American citizens in this country that Martin Luther King's so just and so beautiful words have finally come true. For the wonderful African-American people are free at last......and not a moment too soon......I like to think too, that John Howard Griffin had a little to do with that..at the very least he paved the way for empathy, WHICH IS WHAT WE ADOPTEES DESPERATELY NEED RIGHT NOW, and he will always be a hero to me, along with Rosa Parks, whose spirit is alot like mine. But until tv networks, like USA begin to treat us like we matter as much as the rest of America, there is no rest for the weary, nor will our work be done. After all, NO form of the media has any right, in this age of political correctness to silence our voices and position us to be less important than anyone else....neither does any State Government...and until Adult Adoptees are finally allowed to eat at the grownup table, and Closed Adoption is abolished like it should be, and Open Adoption protects Real Mothers and their infants, I will never, EVER, stop asking those responsible for my pain and for the shunning of it,
WHAT ABOUT US?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...........................
and take delicious pleasure in how that question astounds them..........

Zara Phillips Provides The Best Commercial Break

I could put on my blog, until the final part of my series Adoptees And The Media is posted next week, as her wonderful film illustrates the RIGHT way to discuss Adoptees in the media......(and since now too I am her #1 fan..:) You rock Zara....

Modern Family, Ancient Oppression......

Alot of people are under the impression that I hate all Christians. This is not true. There are many Christians I know, some from as far back as grade school who I will always love, care about and have fond memories of. There are some that still give me nightmares too....yet, many Christians can be very nice people, and have pulled me out of deep water when I was about to drown. Alot of people are under the impression that I also hate all Adoptive Parents. That also isn't true. I love my Adoptive Father and I always will. I also just happen to like him as a person as well. He is a very nice man, and he tries to be friendly, polite and giving. Granted, he has had a couple of bad parental moments, but ALL parents have.
Because no one is perfect and no one is ever going to be.
The difference between him and my Adoptive Mother however, is that she has been nothing BUT one long continuous bad parental moment....but that isn't his fault.
And I do have respect for the AP's who realize we need to know and have a good relationship with our Real Parents, because this is crucial to our well being and our spiritual, emotional and mental health. Our strength, motivation and endurance on a planet, where we are all forced to face the fact that life can sometimes be nothing less than a maddening and insufferable bitch..... AP'S that are selfless and sacrifice their own needs to alleviate our pain by not interfering, manipulating, sabotaging, and trying to make us feel guilty for the primal and God given yearning to love and be loved by those who made us and who we are physically a part of are giving us the best gift they ever could. A gift all Adoptees are entitled too....
I do however, hate Catholic/Christian Pro-Closed Record Clergy and the continual lies they curse us with, their refusal to admit that they altered facts about many Adoptees families and births along with their infuriating indifference about ever making this oh so wrong right. They add fuel to my fire too with the bigoted myths they still teach about we bastards being evil in Catechism, the outlandish mindset Mormons expect Adoptees to execute on their Natural Parents by denying their very existence and the refusal all of them inflict on us by never forgiving us for what they wrongly say we are and for what our Real Mothers have done. I extend my hatred on all AP's who do the same......One thing Christian AP's like this love to do, online and off is push the misguided theory that God not only condones but created Adoption(which of course in my mind and theirs means the Closed Adoption system and all the abuse that goes with it). They use compulsively the story of Moses to demonstrate that God is in favour of every corrupt act the Adoption Industry, The Church and themselves commit. We Adoptees, Real Mothers and the general public read post after post constantly about how Moses's Mother put him in a basket and sent him down the Nile river, joyfully ignoring the fact in their blather that Jochebed did this to save his life, not because she didn't want to be a parent. Or because she was poor. Or because she was single. She had tried to hide him from The Pharaoh of Oppression for three months but could do so no longer and that is why she set her son a sail with her sister watching Moses the whole time. And as their plan panned out, Jochebed would be the one to nurse her son and watch over him as he grew, while Thermuthis the daughter of the Pharaoh who found him, raised him into adulthood. Pretty smart.... Three weeks ago I watched an interesting program on the History Channel that asked could events that were said to have happened in the Old Testament be proven by science that they actually occured and while watching I was reminded of something that these AP's and The Church constantly overlook. Although Moses was raised by the Egyptians, he knew he wasn't one of them. Granted, they were kind to him, but they were not kind to those who shared his blood. And it would be witnessing the abuse of one of his people, that would cause Moses to commit a murder that would end up motivating God to create a whole new set of laws for the Jewish people and eventually for the Christians as well. Moses was never punished by God for killing the Egyptian slaveowner who he saw viciously whipping the Jewish slave that caused such anger to rise in him that in order to make him stop, he took his life. And many people come to the conclusion that the reason God sought no vengeance on Moses, was because God wanted the Jews to be freed from the bondage that the Pharaoh of Oppression had inflicted upon them. And I agree with this. But I see another take on this as well. As to why Moses was spared by God because God could of chosen anyone to lead the Jewish slaves to freedom, it wasn't like Moses was the only one on earth to aid Him in doing this. In the New Testament, when Christ's family is discussed, He is traced back all the way to Adam and Eve.
Every single man who came before Him that he is related to by his Mother's blood is mentioned, going back to the beginning of time. So therefore it is obvious that one's ancestors are deemed very important in the Christian religion as they are in the Jewish religion. This fact can be seen quite clearly in the Old Testament as a man or woman of the Jewish faith is almost always mentioned as the son or daughter of, followed by their Father's name. Moses is written to be Moses, the son of Amram. And it is because of this importance of bloodline, and the passion that all of us share concerning our nationalities, that God did not punish Moses and let him live to be 120 and deemed a hero. God UNDERSTOOD him. He understood the love people feel for their own people and those they are related too. How they are a part of them, and form their identity as to who they are in this world from them. And after all God created man to BE this way........
So for this reason, I can not, I will not ever believe that the same God approves of ripping babies away from their Mothers simply because they are not well off, or taking babies away from their Christian Mothers, as Jesus demands through the 11th commandment to forgive all who repent, or any alteration of the time or day He choose
to bring anyone into the world. Nor do I think He will take lightly the guilt and shame forced on we Adoptees when we want to know who is in our bloodlines or the immature self-centered on the part of social workers, The Adoption Industry, The Church and some AP's sinister lie that only a mentally ill/dysfunctional/ungrateful/neurotic Adoptee needs this information and will be harmed without it.
I find it quite predictable too that Pro Closed Record AP's steamroll over the fact that God chose for Moses, in the end to spend the rest of his life with those of his own heritage, and not his "Adoptive" Egyptian family...... God sends His message that people should not be cut off from their bloodlines or have them hidden from them, not only through the story of King Solomon, but also through the life of Moses.
So it is quite hypocritical for Christian AP's to use the story of this great man Moses for their own agenda while never mentioning or seeing the oppression that Moses experienced through "Adoption" himself.
Oppression comes in many forms, and this is why I suppose the new tv series "Modern Family" upsets me due to the storyline of a homosexual couple that Adopted a cute little baby girl from Vietnam, whose character's name is Lily. For I find this hypocritical too...I have a hard time I guess, supporting gay marriage which leads to gay couples Adopting because we Adoptees are now faced with yet another group of people who are using us to further themselves. And as they do this, they are completely engulfed in tunnel vision and refuse to see how both the Closed and Open Adoption systems take away our rights as human beings. On the website, Queer Planet, concerning one of the entries I posted last year, entitled "Rotten Tomatoes" someone left a comment which proves this very point.

"Prominent studies are finding there is no harm to children who are raised by gay and lesbian parents , she said. Children do better with two parents, but they don’t necessarily have to be a mom and a dad, she said. ..
Here is the original post:
Rotten Tomatoes
September 27th, 2008 Tags: adoptees, adoption, baby, bastard-nation, child, florida, improper, improper-adoptee, include-data, include-name, lesbian, loop-values, rotten-tomatoes, special-links, state Category: lesbian"

And who is doing these "studies" anyway? Gay psychologists? Gay wannabe Parents need to understand for the best interest of children, that heterosexual children are going to feel uncomfortable living with people who are not straight like they are. Just like a bird would feel uncomfortable living under the water, and a fish would feel uncomfortable living in the sky.....they are also going to feel even more psychologically battered living in a scientifically unnatural situation like having two Mothers for Parents or two Fathers (for it is a scientific fact that it takes a sperm and an egg to make a baby, not a sperm and a sperm) because Adoption is an unnatural enough situation to begin with and they do not need nor deserve to have to deal with the pressure of two scenarios that are foreign to them. With all the blogs on the internet, that complain about how down trodden the Adoption system is to Adoptees, I can not believe not one gay PAP, whether they be a homosexual or lesbian have not come across our words or felt our pain. And it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out that when they buy into the very system that oppresses us that was designed by the very people they claim are oppressing them they are merely then the pot calling the kettle black. I also worry about straight Adoptees from other countries who get a triple whammy being Adopted by gay couples, as it is difficult for them to be in a land so far away from their own people. There are many blogs written by Vietnamese, Korean and Chinese Adoptees, some that are linked on my blog that discuss the true trauma of feeling different and not feeling like they fit in because of their ethnicity. It does not help Adoptees either for gay couples to buy into the many corrupt practices that the Adoption Industry engages in, one being literally stealing children from their Mothers on the streets in Asia and then advertising them as orphans that are in need of a home, so they can feed the insatiable, greedy monster called their bank account. "Modern Family" which was created in part to be a gay rights vehicle commits all these emotional crimes against we Adoptees and it angers me that our rights, once again are virtually ignored while everyone hears gay activists through tv shows like this loud and clear, whilst we are flaunted in their opposers faces like a weapon that shoots out we are the same as you ammunition. And keeps us cemented in the plight of never, ever being treated the same as everyone else in this country. Gay people are not denied their Original Birth Certificates because they are gay. NO ONE is denied their OBC's in the United States but us, and when gay couples, like heterosexual couples, Adopt, they justkeep us another step away from obtaining them. They are also helping to promote the idea that Americans should Adopt internationally, which more often than not turns into a disaster due to the gross dishonesty in this country which is why Guatemala now refuses to Adopt out their children to residents of the United States, and other countries like China and Russia are more interested in domestic Adoptions for their children now. "Modern Family" is not the only series either that keeps the bindings tight around Adoptees psyches, for when it comes to lambasting us in the media, the pickins are never slim..........
To be continued.....

Slaughtering Real Mothers and Adoptees On Live Tv....

Not for Adoptees it isn't...new century, different techniques, SAME ABUSE. The very first time I saw
an episode of WEtv's sinister reality show "Adoption Diaries", I was so enraged and felt so emotionally injured I called AmyAdoptee. I had to tell her about this new circus side show staring helpless infants being exploited and their rights to privacy denied. But that is Adoption Industry. On both sides of the coin. They take our lives, that belong to no one but us and all the intimate details about our births and our families that are ours alone, and then build a tall brick wall called Birth Mother Privacy and keep all these facts private from US, barricaded behind it. A wall almost every one of our Real Mothers never wanted built...and as I have said before, the statistics from Alma and Soundex are proof of that. In a radio interview, Dr. Jennifer Bliss (social worker & doctor of psychology, ROTFLMAO) and the co-founder of The Independent Adoption Center that created "Adoption Diaries" and who should be nominated for next year's demon award says quite bluntly that Open Adoption causes LESS psychological problems than Closed Adoption (which we all know isn't true). In this statement, "Dr." Bliss, whose very name is a mockery to all Adoptees, and a wake up call to the general public (ignorance is bliss...get it?) unwittingly outright admits that Closed Adoption is NOT healthy for children and is NOT in the best interest of the child. Yet in an ironic paradox, Bliss completely overlooks over the fact that her Adoption Agencies tv show is not healthy for children either. I swear to God-I swear to God, that if I was one of those poor babies on this program, when I grew up I would sue the butts off of every single ghoul involved in this diabolical series. How dare they! How DARE they broadcast to the entire world, on live tv the act of outright rejection from any child's Mother. Because in all reality that is what it feels like to Adoptees..and Adoption will always be about US more than anyone else..... The entire concept of privacy is perverted for us anyway by the Adoption Industry, social workers and Church Clergy and now Adoptees are whipped with this travesty by the media with this reality from hell tv show that for most unwed Mothers is totally unrealistic, as the majority of single pregnant females, including 18 year olds would never relinquish their child. No person should have to endure what these infants will they see as tweens or teenagers if they ever happen upon the episode with their Real Mother's faces plastered all over their and their friends tv's or monitors, indifferently handing them over to people who have nothing to do with who they are and paying for them to boot. I do not care how some fancy smanchy tittled buffoon like Jennifer Bliss describes the act of Open Adoption or addresses it in her letters from the Independent Adoption Centers (especially when this wench isn't even Adopted). She has NO business speaking for any of us:

"The cases highlighted in this series are accurate portrayals of the work we do everyday at the Independent Adoption Center. Each of them will touch your heart, deconstruct the myths and fears that surround open adoption, and reveal its beauty".

BEAUTY?!!
Why because some self pitying slobbering barren leach gets a baby
and is such a selfish, immature person that she can't say to the baby's birthmother , you should be selfless, buck up, grow up and take responsibility for the life you made. This is YOUR child and it is your God given job to take of him. So work your ass off the way you are supposed TO and be honorable. I would feel terrible if my Mother had given me away.....

BEAUTY?!!
When one of the "birthmothers" on this show named Sara, who has a two year old she on film calls a pain and is negative about him and states that the child she is carrying will get in the way of her ambitions to go to school and become a police officer, so she just gets rid of her through Open Adoption. Gee, how heartwarming that she cares more about serving and protecting society rather than her own child. And what a warm and fuzzy feeling we get watching social workers condone her trashing her toddler because of the commission they will get for the selling of the daughter she carries inside of her.

Dr Ignorance is Bliss goes on to say:

"Instead, children who are adopted will draw their family trees with an added branch, and proudly tell you how their birthmother “just knew” when she found the people meant to be their parents. Children will see in their birthparents’ eyes that this decision was made out of love, and they will grow up fully understanding the unbelievable gift of adoption".

Yes, it is such a GIFT to have the entire world watch your Mother not make one iota of an effort to take care of you.
AND HEAR THIS. NO ONE WANTS TO BE GIVEN TO SOME ONE ELSE AS A GIFT BY THEIR MOTHER. THAT IS LIKE YOUR HUSBAND GIVING YOU AS A GIFT TO ANOTHER MAN WHO CAN'T GET HIS OWN WIFE. HOW WOULD ALL YOU REAL MOTHERS AND ADOPTIVE MOTHERS FEEL ABOUT THAT HUH? BEING VIEWED AS A GIFT MAKES US FEEL USED AND TAKES AWAY ALL THE RESPECT THAT OUR FEELINGS ON THE MATTER SHOULD GET. WE ARE MADE TO FEEL THAT WE ARE BENEATH EVERYONE. ALL CHILDREN WANT TO FEEL THEIR REAL MOTHERS SACRIFICED WHAT THEY WANTED TO DO TO TAKE CARE OF US, WHICH IS WHAT EVERY REAL MOTHER IS SUPPOSED TO DO, AND ALL CHILDREN WANT TO FEEL ACCEPTED BY THEIR MOTHERS AT BIRTH, AND DURING THEIR CHILDHOODS. WE NEED TO FEEL THAT IMPORTANT, AND ADOPTION MAKES US FEEL LESS. OPEN ADOPTION DOES NOT ALLEVIATE FEELINGS OF REJECTION. NOR DOES IT ALLEVIATE A CHILD PLACED IN OPEN ADOPTION FEELING THAT HIS OR HER MOTHER DIDN'T CARE ENOUGH TO EVEN TRY TO MAKE IT WORK. ESPECIALLY SINCE NOT ONE OF THESE BIRTHMOTHERS ON THIS TV SHOW HAS SHOWN ANY REMORSE WHATSOEVER FOR GIVING AWAY THEIR CHILD.

And finally...

"Without any previous experience in open adoption, I was a bit skeptical of its practicality, so I understand if you are as well. However, I ask you to keep an open mind as you watch each episode. Through journeys of uncertainty and heartache, you will witness the creation of lifelong connections built on trust, gratitude and love".

Another reason for Adoptees to be GRATEFUL-for being exploited on reality tv by your Real Mother, Adoptive Parents, social workers, and the Adoption Industry.
Thank you Jesus!

The "birthmother" that I mentioned above named Sara has set an absolutely terrible example for single pregnant females everywhere. Hell, the entire Adoption Industry has and I am sure they are very proud of her. Only dysfunctional, abnormal and grossly selfish women willingly give away their own newborn baby, but due to a massive amount of money to be made by the Industry, they are honored instead of criticized for it, the way they should be. To to rub more salt into our wounds, Sara's own Mother was sitting right next to her in her hospital room telling everyone that she would help Sara with her little girl, which got about 3 seconds of exposure. I felt sorry for this woman because I don't think she wanted to lose her Grandaughter, but alas, Adoption is supposed to be considered more important than then the fact that this future Adoptee was a welcome treasure to other members of her bloodline.......


One has to ponder if some of these birthmothers and PAP's aren't just paid actors and actresses........


The issue of coercion is prominent with "Adoption Diaries" as well. After the episode I painfully endured featuring Sara, and the bonehead PAP's who think their pain is more important than the pain we Adoptees suffer, Jolie and Glenn, there was another episode right after it and unlike Sara, this birthmother, did not want to sign away her child or her legal rights. Enter the battleax social worker who went out into the hospital waiting room to tell the salivating PAP's that it took 5 trys to get her to sign the papers. Strangely NONE of this was EVER taped.......what we do see later however is this poor girl hysterically crying in the hospital parking garage and it doesn't take a psychic to wonder if she was seriously manipulated and pushed into giving her child away.......

The Independent Adoption Center has a hell of alot of nerve in my opinion to be in the business of destroying families, the self esteem of children put up for Adoption and the straight out buying and selling of children and then flaunting it in the faces of American citizens who do not know about the dark truths of Adoption.
They also have alot of nerve, when there are so many "birthmothers" who have been lied to about the realities of Open Adoption, one being that they have NO control over whether the Adoptive Parents will end all contact between her and her child, which they have the legal right to do, while the "birthmother" has no legal rights to stop this from happening, and totally ignoring this heartbreaking fact while they push to put vulnerable young women into this very position.
Bloggers like Cheerio (Surviving Adoption Loss) and Cassi (Adoption Truth) know all about the dirty little tricks the Adoption Industry plays on scared new Mothers, and how they instead of supporting them and helping them to keep this new member of their family with them, encourage them to relenquish, by destroying all their self confidence, and then laugh all the way to the bank....
I am really tired too, of Infertile women getting all the sympathy while we Adoptees are virtually ignored because we are in part looked at as the "bad" ones because we are born out of wedlock and the good barren woman is married and never did anything wrong. I wonder how many wed women who can't conceive had sex before marriage or had abortions in college. Judging a book by it's cover is one of the stupidest things people can do.....
SO HEAR THIS HOLLYWOOD!!
Just once I would like to see a reality show that talks about the reality of how much pain Adoptees are really in. Just once I would like to see a reality show about how disturbing it is for us to be denied our OBC's and always being treated like second class citizens like we are, discriminated against every day instead of show after show that glorifies the using of innocent babies, who are CONSTANTLY silenced as children and adults.
And as everyone in this entire country as of late, screams for their civil rights, we Adoptees are also being used by another group of people in order to get their rights and get revenge on those who do not accept them. And they see no qualms about using the media to hurt us either........
To be continued.........

The Media: Exploiting Adoptees and Birth Mothers Should Never Be Unexpected....Part I of IV

On Lorraine Dusky's blog, First Mother's Forum, I made a comment two days ago about how I felt a reporter employed by 20/20 was absolutely outrageous when he was asked by an injured Haitian child if he would help her. She reached out her weak hand to him and looked into his eyes as he said straight to her face, No, I can't, there is nothing I can do. As I stated to Lorraine, I wasn't sure at first who this atrocity of a human being was, but after poking around ABC's website and seeing the clip again that I saw last Friday night, I was even more appalled then when I saw it the first time. I thought the man in the tan shirt was just one of this show's anchors, and I presumed he was Chris Como, but I could of sworn he was called Richard. And I was right. I don't watch primetime tv all that much, which includes 20/20, so I am not too familiar with their reporters. I wasn't even aware they had a Medical Editor and now I will never forget....On Triona's blog, 73 Adoptee, which is one of my favorite blogs of all time, I also mentioned that I thought it was insane that after four days no supplies or relief could come to the poor suffering people of Haiti but a plane full of video equipment and rating grubbing reporters from 20/20 sure as hell could. What, they couldn't bring any doctors, or medical supplies or penicillin with them? Food, water or donations of clean clothing? Nope. The only thing there was room for on that plane, was the oversized ego of Dr. Richard Besser. The man in the tan shirt....

One needs not to be a rocket scientist to figure out that I do not like The Medical Industry. One just needs to read my entries and click on links I have provided on this blog to get the message. And with their irrational holier than thou attitude comes the destruction of the Hippocratic Oath that they all must swear to, as their arrogance and conceit inflicts emotional disturbance to all around them. And it goes without saying that the majority of them seem to only care about no harm coming to themselves...... What the hell kind of healer, physician, doctor, as they love to call themselves, could just stand there in the mist of intense suffering that those in Haiti have had to endure for almost a week and refuse to help a little girl? He could not of examined her as best he could, given her some bottled water he SHOULD of brought with him so people would not suffer dehydration as he knew damn well supplies from the U.S. had not yet arrived. He couldn't offer to take her back to America with him and give her needed medical treatment and then fly her back on his own dime? He couldn't organize a group of other health professionals to put together a bunch of very needed diagnostic machinery and help them load it onto the cushy metal bird that brought him into this third world hell? He couldn't donate some of his own money to enable her and her family to survive this current tragedy and ensure them a better life there after Haiti begins to put their country back together? Obviously not. And by not helping this innocent, Dr. Bessor takes the depersonalization and the insensitivity of the Medical Profession to a whole new level. To the height of exploitation. Or "sensationalism" as Triona so accurately put it. Or as an "observer" like Lorraine wrote when she responded to me. Despite the fact that this man is a television star now, he is a doctor first. I do not care if he is actively practicing or not. I do not care if his main concern was if his makeup looked alright as his face is plastered all over millions of tv screens, or about the vacation in Disneyworld he was dreaming about taking when the taping was done. No person who has the education and the ability to help the sick and injured has any right to be a detached narrator walking amongst those in dire straits, like so many citizens of Haitai are in right now. Dr. Bessor never had any right to be a slave to the sponsors of 20/20 more than he was to the whole world by the promise he swore to keep. Especially to the universe's youth.
There is much talk amongst the Adoption community here in Bloggerland about the media exploiting Haitian children who salivating barrens are clamoring in droves to take home with them, not caring if their parents are one of the 70,000 dead or not. Corporate America rubs the back of Corporate America as 20/20 promoted Adoption on this joke of a broadcast by speaking first about how many pending Adoptions are backlogged now as paperwork is missing, and then going straight to the heart of their agenda by interviewing a Haitian man not speaking in English who we are told is saying poor Haitian parents are selling their offspring for $150-300 American bucks. Yes, that's right, let's just ignore story after story of corruption in the world of Adoption including how children were literally being stolen from their Real Mothers on the street in countries like Guatemala, China and Russia so Adoption Agencies can Adopt them out at high cost to Infertile American couples who couldn't care less if they were stolen or not. Let's just give the tittle of sainthood to Adoption and all the poor suffering women who just can't conceive. I also left comments about this subject on Lorraine and Triona's blogs and Mirah Riben's blog which is incredibly covers the Haitian tragedy. I urge everyone to click on the AdoptAuthor link to your left and read the important and poignant quotes from organizations that support our views like the UN and Unicef. Mirah has a video on AdoptAuthor where a woman whose child was stolen from her for the purpose of Adoption tells her story. Heartbreaking.
The people of Haiti do not need their children to be taken away from them by rich and financially stable Americans. They need funding from people so their families can function and be together. Many poor children in Haitai however are separated from the parents they love under the guise of giving them a better life, but as I said in another comment, if I was Adopted from a third world country and some American couple Adopted me, and I went to live in some beautiful house, with a stocked fridge I would not feel happy or grateful. My first reaction would be I feel sorry for my parents in Haiti that they are suffering hunger and I am not. I feel sorry for my parents that my surroundings are nice and theirs are not. It is hard to feel happy, safe and calm when you are okay but people you love are not. And as usual, PAP's and AP's delude themselves into thinking that if they Adopt a child whose parents are still alive from a foreign country that that child will just forget all about his or her Real Family and like them better because they give them more material things. What an insult. How shallow and selfish do they think these children are? Entire families should be brought over here and helped or they should be financially helped in Haitai. But what helps fuel this moral mindset into non existence at an even higher speed is the media. As of late AP's and The Adoption Industry have, Tv shows and movies behind them all the way, supporting the same lies we have fought for decades and putting Real Mothers and Adoptees in the same unflattering bigoted light blinding the whole country to the truth, and personally I am DAMN sick of it...
I got a bad feeling from Life Unexpected's trailor like I did the Pregancy Pact's trailor. I hadn't said anything but planned to watch it's premiere. I would like to thank the heartless producers of this obnoxious piece of trash for sending me to bed in tears...... and for perpetuating the cruel stereotype of women who conceive out of wedlock. There were so many lines in this script that made my heart stop. And my heart fall into my stomach. Not only from the character of Cate, Lux's Real Mother, but from her Real Father's character Nate who said right in front of her not long after he found out she was his child that he thought Cate 'got rid of it". Add to this the nauseating scene where Lux tells her new found Mother, a famous radio jock, that she was never placed with an Adoptive Family after Cate had her at 15 because she was born with a hole in her heart and this made her an unattractive candidate due to the high medical bills that would ensue from the surgeries she would need. Lux never mentions who did pay for her three years of operations (the State I suppose), but she made it clear that no one wanted a three year old to Adopt, everyone wants a baby, to which Cate replies, "not everyone"......
Lux is treated like dirt by her foster family as well, and this is why she first contacts her Real Father whose name and address she peeked at on her case workers file when she wasn't looking. She needs to talk to her Real Father to get his signature on an Emancipation form so she can be declared a legal adult on her upcoming 16th birthday, get a job and her own place from the $3000 she has managed to save. After other rude comments to her and getting the definite vibe her Real Parents still don't want her around and haven't matured one iota since they were in high school, which is exactly how they are portrayed, Lux storms off, never wanting to see either of them again, a scene I am sure AP's everywhere drooled over. Nate and Cate (a couple's name so goofy that Lux even jokes about it and created on purpose I am sure to lower them even more) begin to talk amongst each other after their pretty daughter storms out and of course they travel down memory lane straight into the bedroom where they care more about getting it on again, then they do about chasing after Lux to console her. The next morning as Cate leaves Nate's apartment there is poor Lux, bundled up in a blanket over her coat as it is winter and cold in Portland. It becomes clear that she slept outside her Real father's home all night, rather than going back to her horrific Foster Parents where she was told they would be more than happy to have her never come back, as they don't get paid enough to deal with her annoying requests like not having their tweenager son walk in on her when she is still in a towel. After yet another unpleasant conversation with Cate, Lux storms off to the courthouse to begin she hopes, her new independent life only to have the judge shoot her down. To her great surprise however, Nate and Cate follow her there where she is put into joint custody with them and this shall be the overtone of this new series. Or as Cate puts it, she will begin to grow up with her financee's and Lux's help . To suggest that she is still a self-centered scattered brained horndog who can not still be a grown woman capable of being a Mother in her 30's is the sinister undertone of of this new program that disappointed me beyond words. But when it comes to the subject of being fair, forgiving and compassionate on the subject of giving birth unmarried, what else in this country and in the hypocritical world that pushes pre marital sex left and right called Hollywood can we expect? That those who could change the way both single Mothers and we bastards are looked at still chose to mock us and refuse to grow up themselves.....
To be continued.....

"The Pregnancy Pact" is Lax On Facts...

If there was ever a simple synonym for the term Adoption it would be the word lie. After all, it is lie upon lie that keeps Adoption Agencies in business, a young, coerced, new single Mother believing a hovering, drooling barren PAP that an Open Adoption will give her life long contact with her child, and the myth the Church has spread like wildfire that all females that have a baby out of wedlock never, ever want that child to know who she is. (Hence, The Birth Mother Privacy Lie). You see all "fornicating whores", according to Christian Clergy run around hysterically after the birth of their illegitimate infant, flailing their hands in the air feeling so ashamed that they want to hide what they have done from everyone they know, including their own child for the rest of their lives. This is how bad they feel for having a sexual encounter before marriage. THIS of course is how the nuns and priests WANT them to feel even though it is totally untrue and this falsified scenario is completely out of reality. Most single Mothers, even the teenagers who had babies during the BSE Era wanted desperately to keep their newborn infants, and to punish them even further for that act of satan, Church clergy would punish us, their dirty little bastards, by telling us we could not know our own Mother's name, as they want us to feel bad about ourselves as well. I am sure they love fantasizing about we dirty little bundles of flesh going around hitting ourselves on our foreheads every day of our lives mumbling I should feel shame for being alive, I should feel shame for being alive, I am not good enough, I am not good enough. I bet that would turn them on and I am sure those thoughts would be the equivalent of a orgasm to a nun and priest....(even though they are so daft as they continue to try to keep our files sealed that they don't get that the real soul candy is forgiving fornicators, NOT punishing them, but hey, we get to all sit around and suffer until they finally evolve enough to see THAT, lucky us!). Quite sadly, the Church's nasty little agenda has worked on some Adoptees, and that is why so many have committed suicide. To grow up feeling "less than", which is one of the definitions in dictionaries for the words "illegitimate" and bastard" and to be treated as terribly as we are every day by them has never given us stable ground to build upon emotionally and that is the underlying push that sends many an Adoptee over the edge. Everything is harder in life when you are raised in a Closed Adoption and to be made to believe your Mother did not want you and feeling the daily painful, intolerable frustration of not being legally allowed to know what the truth is concerning that dilemma because control freak, self-centered adults around you, won't let you talk to her makes all other challenges we may have to face in our lives unpleasantly more intense. We are forced to feel further frustration as we are denied the knowledge of who she is and begin to feel fear and anger as we are barred from knowing if she is dead or alive, what our Real Family surnames are, who we are related to and who we look like in our bloodlines. Information that the non-Adopted got to know everday as they grew up and so took for granted, that perhaps they have a hard time imagining how not knowing these important facts of a human being's life chips away at a person's morale, self-esteem, feelings of strength, inner peace, dealing with rejection, disappointment & failure (which we all have to in life) and emotional well being. It's a wonder, that social workers who will take a child away from his or her Real Parents because the youngster got a simple sunburn in today's whacky, irrational world, can condone the psychological abuse they have put we Adoptees through for decades, if not a lifetime. Pretty hypocritical. It is also hypocritical for The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, imo to outright lie to support their cause, as they are going to do in the new Lifetime movie, "The Pregnancy Pact". Lifetime Television Network, much to my disappointment runs with their lie too, as the very annoying trailer for this film, which is shown on LMN at least 10 times an hour spouts that this new movie is "based on real events" or a "true story". This tabloid mentality only makes darker
a pathetic event that truly DID happen which I wrote about in my July 2008 entry entitled "Les Horríbles" concerning the outright prejudice and unfair judgements spewed at a group of pregnant Gloucester girls during a 4th of July parade nearly two summers ago. I was not the only one disgusted at the immature fools whose float was meant to throw stones at these Mothers to be:

BEVERLY (WBZ)
"A group of pregnant girls at Gloucester High School were mocked in a series of controversial parade floats in Beverly and Salem over the holiday weekend.
The group of 17 girls in Gloucester made international headlines last month after Time magazine posted a story that claimed some of them had made "a pact to get pregnant and raise their babies together."
That story spurred several young people in upscale Beverly Farms to create some R-rated floats for the town's annual "Horribles 4th of July Parade," an event that is typically politically incorrect.
Mixed in the parade with marching bands and children were floats that featured men in diapers crawling out from in between a woman's legs propped in birthing stirrups and a flatbed trailer full of young women pretending to be pregnant bumping and grinding at a baby shower.
Some in the parade also threw condoms into the crowd.
There were several other sights that many felt were crude, offensive and indecent. A video of the parade was posted on YouTube over the weekend.
According to the Boston Herald, three of the judges walked off and quit.
"I've been involved with this for 40 something years, but I won't be a judge again," Gail Townsend told the paper.
"I get it, it's a Horribles Parade, but it was overkill with the Gloucester pregnancies," she said. "The thing that upset us more than anything was they were throwing condoms. There were 5- and 6-year-old kids picking them up and saying, 'What kind of candy is this?' The Beverly Farms Parade Committee released a joint statement Monday afternoon saying "the hurtful impact of these floats is regrettable and saddening." "While they were officially registered in the parade, these initial float concepts were considerably different than those that ended up marching. The Committee is currently investigating how this happened to ensure it does not occur in the future."
Gloucester Mayor Carolyn Kirk said the parade insulted her working class fishing village and was "highly offensive."
"The city of Gloucester is deeply offended by certain individuals trivializing and making a mockery of teenage pregnancy, which unfortunately is a national problem that we as a society must confront," Kirk said in a statement Monday.
Beverly Mayor William Scanlon Jr. said the parade is not sponsored by the city. He told the Herald, "It's a horrible story."
City Council President Tim Flaherty told WBZ Radio Beverly hasn't screened the floats in the past, but that might have to change now.
"I'm glad my kids weren't there," he said.
Patricia Quinn, executive director of the Massachusetts Alliance on Teen Pregnancy was appalled by the floats and said they were an example of how hard our culture is on girls. "On the one had, girls are taught to be sexy and attract boys and men... and on the other hand, we vilify girls when something unplanned or mistimed like a teen pregnancy occurs. While we all might find it easier to make fun of what happened in Gloucester, our failure to reflect and learn the lesson Gloucester has to teach means we could see that story replayed across Massachusetts."


And to further exasperate the negative reaction towards this group of young women that has come mostly from infertile women who are insanely jealous that a teenager, some one much younger than them can do what they can't after years of trying and from Christian groups who refuse to acknowledge that conceiving out of wedlock should be forgiven and that God made people perfectly capable of having and taking care of a child at 15, 16, 17 and 18 when since the beginning of time this is how old a girl was when she married and started a family, comes another attack on these girls from my state of Massachusetts that they became pregnant on purpose and made a diabolical pact to do so, a conspiracy theory they have vehemently denied. Denied until they are blue in the face. And to be quite blunt I hope everyone of these girls from Gloucester and their families sue the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy's ass off . I hope they sue Lifetime's ass off as well. Because the subject should of been dropped a long time ago, right after the public's paranoia should of been nipped in the bud when the truth came out. That there was no plan. There was no pact. And there was no need for a natural occurrence like pregnancy to be turned into a sinister form of adolescence rebellion. This new slap in the face in the form of film thrust on these young women now is nothing less than blatant harassment as they try to raise their little charges in peace, which everyone of them has a right to do. Neither these young women or their children deserved the hatred inflicted on them during those witch hunts called parades in Beverly and Salem all those months ago. Nor do they deserve to have to endure one again as they will this Saturday night when the "Pregnancy Pact" airs on Lifetime tv at 9pm. Like I am sure they will be, I will be watching this atrocity called entertainment whilst throwing open diaper pins at my tv........feel free to join me as we stick it to those who who create yet another lie about unwed Mothers.....

New Year Sentiments........

All of our oppressors.....our oppossers.....you can call us what you want...dirty little bastards, ungrateful little brats, village idiots, "dyfuctionalists", Quasimodo's, bundles of sinful flesh, dogs on a leash, puppets on a string......but we are not any of these things....we are people just like you, despite the fact that you want to own us....control us...destroy us...and to that I say....in 2010 (yes, THAT's RIGHT 2010 not 1510 where the sealed records system mindset is from) the fight continues on....YOU wouldn't take it (WHAT would YOU say, all you AP's, social workers, Adoption Agency employees, ministers and priests if YOU were told you could not have your families heritage and your OBC...I shutter to think!) and there is no way in hell we should either.....
Happy New Year everyone.......may this be the year the USA finally comes out of her catatonic state.......:) Blast this video loud, maybe it will help shake things up a bit!

WE MUST NEVER FORGET. Candace Newmaker.....

Today is Candace Newmaker's birthday. She would of turned 20.
But Adoption murdered her. Adoption has murdered me in many ways too.......
And her Adoptive Mother's weapon of choice?
Attachment Therapy.
And Candace's killer?
Satan's little helper walks free as I type this.........




Look at her face. You can see the evil emanating from it as her laughter continues to haunt all of us. Adoptees and Real Mothers alike......

Today is my birthday. Or that is what I have been told. Considering the fact that CHS lied to me for 25 years about not knowing the time of day I was born, which was illegal, why should I believe them about what day I was born.....especially since
this Christian Adoption Agency vies for Closed Records and the employees there lie about themselves and say they are Adopted when they are not. A game they first started playing with me in the early 80's long before they took it to the internet.
(Like an Adoption Agency would hire an Adoptee and let them ten feet near any other Adoptee's sealed files, teach them how to search for another Adoptee's "birthmothers" current whereabouts, or let them see OBC's with "Illegitimate" or "bastard" stamped across them. Yeah RIGHT........)

It is a well known fact that Christian Clergy, Adoption Agencies, and many a power abusing, immature AP changed the real birthdate of an Adopted infant to a fake date which appears on the Adoptees AMC (Amended Birth Certificate). This was done for differant reasons to serve well all those involved in the child's Adoption EXCEPT the child of course, even though all the true facts that were altered are a very needed form of secutiy and stability for the child's sense of self and identity in every stage of the child's life. Lying outright to some Adoptees about when they came into this world aids the Church's need to punish we dirty little bastards for the rest of our lives. You know since priests, ministers, cardinals, bishops and nuns find Christ's order to forgive each others sins and do nothing at all to punish them so repugnant and all.............this trickery and deception also aids the Adoption Agencies to be able to give their Infertile clients more bang for their buck by letting them buy having the power of god since they can't buy making god let them conceive their own child. So THEY decide when the baby they are going to Adopt was born..........what month, what day, what year which doesn't even let the Adoptee have the the control to know how old they really are! which NO person has any right to do to another person. And it goes without saying, that this isn't even an act of decent parenting either. It is an act of OWNERSHIP. And there is a hell of a big differance between the rightful authority Real Parents exhibit with their children and the ownership mentality some Adoptive Parents execute. Telling a child they Adopt that they are a Gemini when they are really a Scorpio also helps to keep Real Mother and child separate forever as they cannot find each other when they start searching..........the true self-serving motive for why Adoptive Mothers lobbied Congressmen in 1951 to get Adoption Records sealed in the first place......

As a psychic, I know that Candace Newmaker is not at peace. She has not passed to a better place and her spirit bitterly lingers in the realm that keeps her on this earth. She is angry. She is mad at god too. And I don't blame her. Alot of Adoptees raised in Closed Adoption don't feel god is love either, thanks to Pro-Closed Record Christians and the condescending act of we HUMAN BEINGS given as "gifts" to total strangers. And of course how the Church and many AP's try to make us hate ourselves.....(feel shame, whip! whip! feel shame, whip! whip!) We know damn well that sealed files have nothing to do with any form of love......Hate, control, mockery and discrimination, yeah. But love? Pfft..........

Candace didn't feel too loved wrapped up in that heavy itchy blue blanket either. Fighting for her life, her identity and her sanity, as a psychotic Infertile and psychologist forced their money grubbing, ego fulfilling agenda on her, along with their obese asses, the last sounds little Candace ever heard were Jeanne and Ponder yelling at her and Watkins cutting her down along with the gurgling in her lungs from choking on her own vomit because those three losers wouldn't let her out. They wouldn't listen to HER FEELINGS. They wouldn't take HER seriously. They wouldn't let her be released from the drone status THEY wanted her to brainwash herself into SO SHE WOULD BELEIVE SHE WAS BORN AGAIN LITERALLY TO JEANNE NEWMAKER, HER INFERTILE ADOPTIVE MOTHER. Attachment Therapy reveals the true sinister arrogance so many AP's carry within their resentful hearts. And how deeply they care only about themselves and not the innocent infants and children they Adopt. Backed by powerful child abusing industries(Adoption Agencies, Departments of Social Work and the Church) and a paid off government, they have gotten away with immoral and insepid acts that social workers would call negligence and attorneys would call personal injury if the same behaviour was shown by natural parents to their offspring. And thanks to Attachment Therapy they have gotten away with murder too......and this we must NEVER forget......

CANDACE: Whoever is pushing on my head it’s not helping. I can’t do it. I can’t do it. I can’t breathe. It’s too dark under here. Please quit pushing on my head. I can’t do it. Somebody’s sitting on top of me.

CANDACE: I can’t do it. [Screams] I’m gonna die…

PONDER: Do you want to die?

CANDACE: No, but I’m about to…

WATKINS: Go ahead and die.

CANDACE: Please, please I can’t breathe.

CANDACE: Please quit pushing on me.

CANDACE: I need some help. Help! Help me please…

CANDACE: Can you let me have some oxygen? You mean, like you want me to die for real?

PONDER: Uh huh.

CANDACE: Die right now and go to heaven?

PONDER: Go ahead and die right now. For real. For real…

WATKINS: Just go ahead and die. It’s easier…

CANDACE: You said you would give me oxygen.

WATKINS: You gotta fight for it.

CANDACE: [vomits] OK, I’m throwing up. I just threw up. [Vomiting] I gotta poop. I gotta poop.

CANDACE: Uh, I’m going in my pants.

PONDER: Go ahead.

WATKINS: Stay in there with the poop and vomit.

CANDACE: Help! I can’t breathe. I can’t breathe. It’s hot. I can’t breathe…

WATKINS: Getting pretty tight in here.

PONDER: Yep… less and less air all the time…

PONDER: She gets to be stuck in her own puke and poop.

WATKINS: Uh huh. It’s her own life. Quitter.

JEANE NEWMAKER: Baby, do you want to be born?

CANDACE: [Weakly responds] No. [This is Candace’s last word.]

WATKINS: Candace is used to making her life everybody else’s problem. She’s not used to living her own life.

PONDER: Quitter, quitter, quitter, quitter, quit, quit, quit, quit. She’s a quitter…

[Ponder and Watkins chitchat about their dream homes and a million-dollar property nearby that is being remodeled.]

WATKINS: Let’s talk to the twerp.

[They unwrap Candace.]

WATKINS : Oh, there she is sleeping in her vomit.

Candace Elizabeth Newmaker: November 19th 1989-April 18th 2000

Pennies From Hell..(Or Screw You Woman's World Magazine and Adoption.com....)

I have read some sappy, happy, wappy bastard barf bucket inducing articles in my time concerning Closed Adoption, but the one I happened upon yesterday absolutely takes the cake. The little 'bee happy" cupcakes on the cover of this week's edition of Woman's World magazine that is, who I am so mad at right now I am going to boycott this publication forever. (A very proper act for all "forever children"). I am asking all of you to do the same.
How appropriate........
Root canal causing, sugar overloaded, toxic food color dyed monstrosities, as healthy as Closed Adoption(and guaranteed to make both Adoptees and BSE Mothers vomit), complete with an edible stinger used by one of the most irrational "bee mommies" I have ever had the displeasure of seeing a picture of.....
Can you feel Marian's sting everybody? Buzz Buzz......
You should, for she has just bit us all in the ass.......
Along with her new best friend, Adoption.com who is probably starting a new Adoption promotion campaign (and E-mailing the recipe to the NCFA as I type this) who would love to join them selling Bee Happy You Are Adopted cupcakes as a fundraiser to pay for envelopes and stamps!
Ga all lee!! How heartwarming!
It is amazing. It amazes me. Online. Offline. I write one comment about this atrocity called a magazine on FMF which ran an article about a miracle pill that is supposed to help Infertiles get pregnant, so maybe another child can be spared the legal identity theft and emotional oppression called Closed Adoption and wham! This. Gee. What's the matter? Didn't the doctor's miracle pill get you knocked up fast enough? Is Woman's World Magazine trying to cover their behind by offering another alternative for faulty reproductive parts? Are all of you barren battleaxes from Adoption.com all mad at all of us truthful Adoptees and BSE Mothers because we speak out against the Anti-Christ act of ripping babes away from their Mothers and giving them to women who won't even honor their own God's will for them not to raise a child. Using the Corporate America money fucking media to make even more money for the Corporate America money fucking Adoption Industry...(don't you know CEO's have vibrators with 100 dollar bills painted on them :)
Yes, America is just one big web of deceit weaving row upon row of traps for the innocent and vulnerable so they can eat them alive. Sigh. But I suppose one could expect no more from Adoption.com (the BSE Mother and disgruntled Adoptee banning website). Nor could one expect more from the Churches or the Adoption Industry either. But neither can we expect anymore from "beemommies"....
In italics Marian says..
"He was in the Navy and when we learned I was expecting you, he flew home to get married. But we were so young, we knew we couldn't give you the life you deserved".(Oh barf, barf up candy bee mommy cupcake antennas!)
Gee. They let males too young for the responsibility of raising his own child join the Navy and teach them how to blow up submarines and use grenades? Golly. Who ever thought changing a diaper and warming up a bottle was more dangerous than that? And with a steady paycheck from the U.S. Government to boot. Nope. Even during the BSE Era one had to be 18 to enlist in any part of the military and 18 is NOT too young to have a child. People have been having children at that age for centuries. So it goes without saying that this sensitivity deficient explanation for why Cindy was relinquished is nothing more than an Adoption promoting bunch of bee manure. (And they don't shit honey...) That's right people, follow the little blue circle printed on the first page of this happy wappy Adoption story to your womb fresh infant!!!!....(when you see what is printed inside of it, you will get why I say this....)
Of course Cindy's Real Father's age isn't mentioned at all. (How convenient!)But it was the norm in the 50's 60's and 70's for 18, 19, 20 and 21 yr olds to marry and start a family. Most young women DIDN'T even finish college because they did get married. Women in their 70's now know most of them dropped out and never finished school. And let's face it, in those days when male chauvinism prevailed most females only went to college to snag a husband. And what newly married couple was well off anyway? Unless you were Kennedy, a movie star or the heir to the Max Factor fortune young married couples didn't have a lot of money, but that fact didn't stop most of them from having children right way. And as their children got bigger, most likely their bank accounts did as well. THAT was the norm. THAT was the way life was supposed to be. (Christ Marian, how stupid do you think the general public IS?)
For those of you not into herbal medicinal medicine like I am, and due to that you may not have any organic ginger root on hand, you better go run and get your Bismuth liquid now, because the next quote from Marian will make you o.d. on gumdrop flying free through Adoption beemommy cupcake wings.....
In italics she continues...
(you know, because the following words are just so goddamn important, poignant and full of compassion...)
from and E-mail she writes to Cindy after being matched with her on Adoption.dumb (who never wants to hear anything negative about Closed Adoption, or Open Adoption gone wrong for that matter...)
"I thanked God that you had a new family-that you didn't have to endure the heartache of losing your daddy"......
What? What the hell you say? That's right folks. Happy Wappy beemommie Marian is really the happy wappiest that she gave her own flesh and blood up for Closed Adoption because Cindy's Real father died when she was 5. And this nauseating peice entitled, "Now I Know There Are Miracles", seems to indicate that Marian married Cindy's Father but got rid of her, although I am not sure).
Oh my fucking God!! (this expression being used of course to mock the ever unholy Christian Adoption Industry.....) It's a miracle! A new and wonderful sales pitch, I mean reason to throw your newborn baby away and place her in the arms of strangers who might do Heaven knows what to her, while keeping Adoption Agencies happy wappy billion dollar industry! Gee. Why don't ALL natural parents do that. Why don't ALL fertile females give their newborn babies, a part of their own body, who they carried inside of them and protected for almost a year, up for Closed Adoption just in case one of them dies when their child is growing up. Helpless babies who don't even get to speak for themselves about what THEY want in their lives, and how they want them to be. Lucky Cindy. Her beemommie did and spared her going to her Real Father's only funeral.....just another spectacular and rational reason to love and support Adoption! Spare your child any unfortunate natural event that effects their family tree! Why keep your child and let them suffer everything from a stubbed toe to a death in the family when they can live in the the Fairytaleland of nothing ever bad happens to Adoptive Parents (or their "chosen" special" little bastards!) For everyone knows that a law was passed there from the book of Leave It To Beaver that no Adoptive Mother's hair is ever out of place or no Adoptive Father's cardigan ever has a lintball! No Adoptive Mother ever breaks a nail, or gets a divorce or drinks herself into oblivion. No Adoptees are ever molested by their Adopted Parents or left to fry to death because they were forgotten in the back seat of a hot car. Adoptees never fail tests, break their noses, get rejected by classmates or fall out of a tree. And of course no Adoptive Parent ever, EVER dies before the Adoptee is 18.......
No happy wappy Closed Adoption story would be complete without the rare being called the happy wappy Adoptive Mother. The little raspberry candy that holds the licorice stinger on the icing on top of the beemommy cupcake...
Who is so happy wappy that her "gift from God" has found her Real Mother and spends her days dreaming of the shopping trips, barbeque's and quilting's they can do together. Especially since Cindy says that she considers Fern her "Real Mother" and not Marian...Yes. Every Adoptive Mother I know fantasies about this. For they are full of the maturity and grace it takes to not lower themselves to being the control freak, petty, juvenile, self-absorbed, egotistical green eyed dragon ladies we all know most of them are...
Yes. Fern. Who I really hope is an evolved Adoptive Mother. How refreshing THAT would be...Granted, maybe there are a few Adoptees that had open-minded, loving and emotionally healthy Adoptive Mothers. And maybe there are a few Adoptees that didn't care that they were told they were NOT legally allowed to know their own parents names growing up, but they are the extreme minority and the ones not able to deal with this discrimination and child abuse the most, NOT the norm. And the Adoption Industry of course takes advantage of this fact and only goes to the media with happy wappy sappy Closed Adoption stories so they can con the public that THAT is what Closed Adoption IS. The media, thanks to the ACLU supporting The Birth Mother Privacy Lie refuses to ever let we Adoptees, BSE Mothers and the victimized Real Mothers of Open Adoption that are rightfully speaking out against a sinister system ever, ever have a voice in print or in film. Christia Crawford was the only exception to the shut them up campaign they have waged against us, but even she has been purposely ignored and downplayed over the years since "Mommie Dearest" was published and became a movie. And when we do speak out against the bigotry spewed at us "rotten little bastards" and refuse to be plastic commodities and demand we be treated like the human beings we are, we are deemed neurotic, difficult, angry and in need of psychiatric help because we won't cooperate in the make money for the Adoption Industry game we have been forced to play. If your digestive system is strong enough, go check out this Adoption promoting article, compliments of Adoption.com sometime this week if you are waiting in line at the supermarket, but whatever you do, DON'T buy it. It isn't worth you one hundred and 79 pennies. Pennies from Hell. Pennies that Cindy says she strangely kept finding all weekend, the first weekend she had heard from beemommie Marian. Coins she felt were being placed there by her Real Father in Heaven! Pennies that are sending the message I love you! Pennies that in all reality, due to the evil support Closed Adoption tone in this story send the message he is so glad he never got to see her face thanks to the wonderful Industry whose bank accounts were opened in hell........

As an Adoptee who has never had the pleasure of being able to meet my own Real Father for almost fifty years, this article further angers me as I feel Cindy has no right to assume her Real Father is all happy wappy in the afterlife that he missed the opportunity to ever be with her. Even if it would of only been for five years. No one either has a right to play God and interfere in the natural order of events in someone else's life. Whether it be nun or priest, social worker, PAP, Adoptive Parent or beemommie.

Man never had the right to take someone off of their path.

AND KNOWING ONE'S BLOODLINE AND BEING AN ACTIVE PART OF IT, IS EVERYONE'S PATH.

It is no supernatural occurrence either to come across pennies scattered around one's house. It happens to me all the time. It is stomach turning however to think pennies would represent a sentiment of I'm glad so many were spent to buy you out of your own life..........your own experiences.........your own heritage...........and a chance of a relationship with me..........

I am sure that where ever Cindy's Real Father is he knows now it was wrong to give her away. And that he lost the best gift he ever got. A gift that is priceless and that all the pennies on planet earth could never buy. Holding Cindy in his arms, listening to her laugh, bouncing her on his knee, knowing who his own child is...........and that she lost the most priceless gift ever given to her as well.......
I don't know about you, but I will be saving all my pennies for fruit and vegetables for the rest of the week. I think I'm sappy wappy cupcaked out...........


And yes, I am back. My nice little vacation from insults and lies interrupted by cheesy reading material. I realize I went out like a lamb due to Blogger Burnout but I have returned like a lion (and not a cowardly one at that)...so for all of you who thought you got rid of me....Fat chance. Dream On. I'm not going anywhere.......:)